Simple Philosophy of My Son's Father About Their Relationship

A woman falls in love with a man first for his enduring love that he holds in his heart for the lady. I found my someone 'special' back in 2002.... a graceful man (who was a carefree boy then) who possessed the traits of being caring, nurturing, sensitive and sensible at the same time besides being good-looking. lolz. Obviously, I was on Cloud Nine to be someone's 'first priority'. 

Soon after, I got to dig up something more about his personality, when I stepped into the motherhood phase. He was always there to help me chase my dreams and to cheer me up on my little accomplishments when motherhood-guilt hit me hard and I wanted to give up on my ambitions. 

Year 2006

Fast forward to the phase at present, when this man has emerged as a responsible father to his pre-teen son; I see him being more than just a custodial parent rather a buddy somewhat older in age, who is consistently stimulating reasons of interactions for his introvert boy to be more vocal and expressive.

'A father should readily respond to the cries and needs of his child.' - we agree, but only to certain extent. The father-son relationship is a conscious process of connection; but he chose to mentor his little one through living the life in such a manner that could set an example for him to decide what to learn or unlearn without dictating plain theories. 

Well! in most families, the focus is on attachment of parents-children, as it directly influences child's development. But according to my husband, a state of over-attachment is unhealthy and has an unfavourable impact when you hold tight on your child. His ideology is to let your child struggle with age-appropriate challenges leading him to be self-reliant gradually.

My husband never misses to praise every incremental step of our son towards moving out into the world independently, however small it is. Because there is no better way to help boost your child's self-esteem through reassurance. 

A maturing adolescent son who sometimes feels low for varied reasons, be it his looks or his academic scores or his inability to be socially confident with strangers, needs his father's guidance to raise his level of self-acceptance. Actually my husband has evoked this courage in me now to start believing that our boy will do well in life with his determined approach that seemed really tough at a stage. With his father's trust in him, I witness my son becoming more of a modulated person in harmony with our limited means but our boundless hopes :)

Believe me, the presence of a father in any child's life is beyond the pay-cheque that he brings home. Every little move you make to create an environment at home for a well-knitted family puts some more fuel to keep the warmth of your family-bond sparked longer & the role of a father is certainly irreplaceable.  

Year 2018

This post is a part of a Father’s Day themed blog train where 24 bloggers have voiced their hearty feeling for their #SuperHero i.e. their fathers. Two of the talented Parenting and Lifestyle bloggers Priyanka Patwari of Flavors of World and Preety Tiwari of Delhi Blogger are the hosts of this blog train.

This train travelling through last station Mish Prima Donna of Shilpi has today stopped here. Thank you all for taking time to admire the beauty of my junction and let's get ready for another halt at panoramic station Panoramic Ripples of Aditi tomorrow morning.

Rakhi Bhai Behan Ka Tyohaar

I may not say it always, but whenever I say I mean it ...

"The memories may fade with passing time, but the bond we share will only grow stronger.." 

Writing for #selfiewithsibling contest by Jabong.com made me say above lines again to my bro.

The loving occasion of Raksha Bandhan is actually the best time to reminisce fondly those wonderful moments I have spent with my siblings. Because despite being many many years younger to me, he is the one who holds my lowered spirits in bad times. When I have a reason to smile and celebrate, I message him first of all and he is readily available to make it more meaningful.

But yes, we are no exception and can't end up without hate moments too. He is pissed off so easily when I comment something 'not likable' on his social accounts and he grumbles for having an 'interfering' elder sister.... He finds it irritating when I advise him not to be an impulsive buyer and make choices within specific budget.... He thinks I am old-fashioned if I'm offended seeing him clicked with female classmates...He puts a full-stop on our conversation saying "Not Again", when I wish to motivate him to give more time to studies and work harder... He gives me furious looks if I am spying on his phone...Gosh!! should I write all this here!! I know he won't spare me today after he reads this post but I actually wanna see his reaction ;) {Hope God is there to save me :P }

Even when life has led us along different paths now, we are always close looking out for each other (thanks to some awesome phone apps too) ... He really has the virtuosity to beautify my life. He laughs at my funny selfies, edits them making me look fairer and then asks me for a "Thank You" that I never say ;) He keeps me updated with latest technology hacks and makes sure the path I am travelling on as a blogger is smooth n guided. I know deep in my heart who will come to my rescue when no one offers me a helping hand. 

Though I don't need an occasion to show my gratefulness to him but every moment of my life is a blessing to have a 'monster' around me who possesses a clear heart. Even if I searched the world over, there cannot be a better brother than him. And Raksha Bandhan is the day when we deserve clicking #selfiewithsibling and capturing one more such moment of happiness :)

I wish my bro all the happiness and loads of success through every side in his life!!

I Have Learnt To Live With Pride Now

I flip back a chapter of my life today to tell you the story of a low-confidence gal. I was not the same confident personality by birth. By the grace of God, I was blessed with physical fitness, but still I had a negative image of myself in my mind. This is the first time that I am openly accepting the fact that most of the time I used to refrain myself from doing a thing just because I had a sound echoing in my subconscious mind "I cannot excel in this and its not meant for me.." The constant feeling of comparing myself with everyone else in a negative way and then putting myself low had become a psychological stress that I was battling with ...This silent disease of my thoughts caused low self-esteem in me which in turn hindered my academic and social functioning to a greater extent (for which I am actually repenting till date).

Though its my only public confession here, it doesn't mean that nobody could notice my behavioural pattern that time. I never knew that I was under the scanner of those observant eyes most of the time; the eyes of a affectionate and concerned dad. I heard my dad talking about of challenges of his early life and the trial-plus-success instances he had undergone. It was his way of injecting the fuel of self-assurance in me to keep me high-spirited. He prompted me to engage myself in activities in which I had been more proficient at home as well as school and neighbourhood so that a sense of achievement pierce in me to blow away my apprehensions. He himself acted in the best possible manner to make me learn new things by imitating him and also taught me to learn from mistakes, admit my weaknesses and work on them to turn them into my strengths. There were incidents when teachers, friends and family members noticed remarkable changes in my attitude towards life. 

The struggle had not ended so easily, because stepping in adolescence gave me yet another reason to confine myself due to my fright of interacting with opposite gender. Dad was still there with his courageous words and practical advice for raising me into a confident person. As a trustworthy friend, he portrayed in front of me, an image of a girl who deserves all good things and can succeed in life without merciful advantages in her baggage. He demonstrated the appropriate manner to express myself and cautioned me not to explode with whatever is stuffed in my head-n-heart without striking a balance between various factors underlying in the situation. As some more maturity set in my personality, I eventually was able to open the tight lid suffocating my inner self and emerged as a well-behaved, bubbling with energy, brimming with confidence and responsible woman attributed to win over the toughest hurdles and living life without being dependent on others. 

The person whom you see in the pic below is the one who deserves the title of my Motivational Guru and so I take privilege to voice my feelings for #MyFamilyMyPride that -

"Apno Ko Apne Dum Par Jeena Sikhao, 

Aur Duniya Ke Liye Misaal Ban Jao" 

I hope many of you would be able to relate to my story.. but don't forget to watch this touching video by HDFCLife of a lovely dad-daughter duo like me n my dad :) :) 

 This post is exclusively written for Indiblogger's #IndiHappyHour #MyFamilyMyPride campaign in association with HDFCLife.

How to Feel Worthy of A Relationship

In life, when we are thrown together with someone by the circumstances of our lives, it forms a 'Relationship'. Many a times, these relationships include not only the people for whom we have a particular attraction, love or liking; but also the people we generally dislike, avoid interacting, ignore meeting, or even hate to have them in life. Still there is a moral responsibility of behaving sensibly to maintain the relationships without grumbling.

If I talk about myself, I consider myself one of the richest person in the universe to have most caring people in my life. All my primary relationship (mainly family oriented) are so intensely knitted together that one cannot think of seeing a single yarn separately.

Sometimes, I meet people who feel themselves misfit for a relationship and are hurting n cursing themselves. This is how you may realize your importance in somebody's life...

* When people around you are not friendly, affable or decent to you; I advise you not to feel frustrated but think that there is always a room for improvement. Until you are on the verge of extreme tolerance, try to settle your anguish than to be lonely. Because isolation is a disease in itself.

* Remind yourself again and again "I deserve your respect, your friendship, your devotion and your commitment; because I am worth it." And then also feel exactly the same, because when you feed yourself with positive thoughts like these then only you can ensure self-acceptance.

*Dump the fear of rejection from your heart. You are not an article to be measured up to assess your value. Start believing that there is no suspicion about being recognized for your strengths.

I always convince myself that I am a person with some flaws that I need to work upon, but have lot many positive behavioural traits that make me feel beautiful and confident of remaining happy in privileged relationships like being a daughter, a wife, a mother,a sister, a teacher and ofcourse a loyal friend.

I strongly believe in the Law of Attraction that can make magical things happen to you that you never expected. Feel yourself worth of every beautiful experience in your relationships and your destiny might change for better :)